Things were not as rosy as it is for Joseph Yobo and his wife,Adaeze Yobo in their first two years, she had fought with ego and that had affected her relationship with Yobo, thank goodness that she was able to handle it to enjoy the beautiful marriage she is having today.
She said “This reminded me so much of the first 2years of my marriage (when i had too much ego, it was all about me and what “I deserve”) I will always randomly have in mind that my husband should know “we gotta go out” i wld seat my ass down all the time and just get mad, I mean doesn't he know?
I won’t even tell him nonsense! It wasn’t that I desperately wanted to go out cos most of the time, we did we had nothing to say to each other but my “i deserve mentality” my after all, i’m the woman” “the queen” mentality, was my motivating factor.
Just texting or calling my hubby to say “hey babe, there is this restaurant that makes the best prawns let’s casually go after your training. Was what I should have said but here is what I actually said for 2 years, “Joe (which is what I call him wen am mad) everybody went to that restaurant on that street and even last night this persons husband took her”
I always said to the people that i complain to, “How dare he? just cos I want us to go out and have a nice dinner, dont i Deserve it eh”? Anyway, the moral of this (long) story, is that when I changed from my “i deserve” mentality to “we deserve” slowly, the tables turned. Now he makes our date plan calender for a month i lost out on seeing that soft amazing person he is for the first 2years cos I was always ready to fire, after all he shld have read the manual before marriage”
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